Some Facts About Bonding With Your Newborn

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Childbirth brings into light one more important aspect; the bonding or intense attachment with the newborn that creates a feeling of showering him/her with love or affection.  Bonding with the newborn could occur within the first few minutes of birth or over a period of time.



Few bonding facts with newborns:



Researchers in the past were of the opinion that it was important for the mother to spend lot of time with the newborn in the first few days of life to build this important bond. However this is not always the case as bonding can take place also over a period of time; this is true of parents that have been separated for medical reasons from the newborn or in the case of adoption of babies of a few weeks or months.



There could be a doubt in the minds of many whether it is necessary for the mother to bond with the newborn right away; experts are of the opinion that the parent-newborn bonding is complicated and take time to build up. A mother need not worry as long as the baby’s basic needs are met and she cuddles the newborn regularly. It is best to believe that bonding is truly an individual experience, with the bond developing instantly or take its own time to develop.



Next it is best to understand that is futile to hurry up the bonding exercise with the newborn, considering it could be exhausting, stressful and overwhelming being a new parent. This coupled with nursing that helps in bonding could also leave the new mother in an emotional whirlwind. Also it is best here to consider the difficult delivery some mothers have, with letting time for the mother to recover first before concentrating on bonding with the newborn. 



It is best to understand that the newborn is an entirely new person and there is no magic formula, this bonding develops as a result of everyday care.


Bonding with newborn 

However some techniques could help: 



The first is the human touch by having a skin-to-skin contact by holding and stroking him/her gently.



Next you as a mother could look into the baby’s eyes and talk and sing to her regularly.



If your baby is born with complications and is in the intensive care hooked up to wires and monitor, you could ask the hospital staff the safest way to touch and hold the baby. 



Do not hurry to develop a bond with your newborn; you will slowly learn to comfort him/her and your feelings will deepen. Once the newborn smiles you will realize that you are filled with love or joy for him/her.



The signs that indicate reasons to worry are when you do not develop any bonding for the newborn over a period of time and instead turn detached and resentful. It is best to discuss this aspect with your baby’s doctor, your doctor, your partner, family and friends; early intervention could prevent your relationship from deteriorating and help win back the trust and affection of the newborn. 



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